I want to be someone worth following. Don’t you?
Seriously, take a minute to think about it. Are you someone worth following? Is anyone following you? Are you making a difference in your corner of the world? As you can tell, I’ve been thinking deeply lately. But, at the heart of it all, I really want to know if I can make a bigger impact while still taking good care of my family.
As mothers, of course, someone is following us – our children! And, of course, we are making a difference in our children’s lives. This is of utmost importance.
With all these questions my heart is pointing me toward mentorship within my family and outside my family. I want to be more intentional in seeking and becoming a mentor.
Picture this scene: There is someone in front of you whom you are following and there is someone behind you following you. All three of you are holding hands pulling each other along. That’s how I picture mentorship. We can learn from women who are more experienced than us and we can encourage and help women who are younger than us. A mentor relationship is one built on trust, love, honesty, and confidentiality.
Mentorship can be a spiritual journey but it can also be a personal journey, such as a young mother learning from an older mother. And other times, it can be both.
Here are some ideas to get started on your mentorship journey.
Seeking a Mentor
- Choose a mentor who is someone worth following. Look for women who are excellent mothers, wives, and friends.
- Don’t be afraid to ask someone to be your mentor. It’s a compliment to them!
- Set clear expectations and goals within your mentor relationship.
- Find times to meet that fit into your schedule and lifestyle. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Eat lunch together, go for a walk, or schedule a play date.
Being a Mentor
- Don’t believe the lies that tell you that you’re not good enough to be a mentor. If you are a living, breathing human with life experiences, then you are enough. You don’t have to know all the answers!
- Perfection is not a requirement. Be real and vulnerable.
- Look for opportunities to connect with women from a younger generation who might be seeking a mentor.
- Connect with people who are in a profession where they interact with younger women and ask them to connect you with potential mentees. Examples might include a teacher, coach, youth minister, etc.
- Incorporate a mentor relationship in your normal life without compromising your commitment to family.
Mentoring Your Children
- First things first. Remember to focus on your relationship with your child(ren).
- You are a lifelong mentor to your child(ren).
- Perhaps your mentees will be great role models for your own children.
Where Do We Start?
Can I be honest with you? I don’t know what mentorship looks like in my life yet. I am not an expert in mentoring. But, I’m ready to start the journey. Here’s where to begin: Ask someone worth following to be your mentor. Then, seek younger women to mentor. I believe when you ask and seek, you will find.