I read over 60 books last year.
The last time I mentioned that around my fellow Mothers, they looked at me like I had grown two heads. A few days later, I was scrolling through social media and saw another Mom that I follow say that she felt bad for reading. That it was frivolous and it felt too extravagant to take so much time for herself; as if her happiness didn’t matter.
Moms, not only is taking time for ourselves okay- it’s a necessity.
These tiny humans that we are raising take up almost every second of every day. I totally understand. I am right here with you. But, if all we ever do is take care of everyone around us, forsaking ourselves, what kind of message are we sending to our children? That we’re not worth taking care of?
Are we showing them that when they have children of their own, that they have to give up the things that they love? That by becoming parents we have to give up what brings us joy? Our hopes, dreams? Where does it end?
It is absolutely essential that we do something for ourselves every now and again. We are better mothers, spouses, and friends when we feel validated. When we take the time to do the things that matter to us, it makes us whole.
For me it’s reading and writing. Yes, sometimes I have to prioritize this time for myself over other things in my life. But, I try my hardest to make it happen. Even if it’s only for 15 minutes at a time, I do it.
Maybe you love crafting, knitting, baking, whatever! I urge you to carve out some time each day, week, or at least once a month to do whatever it is that brings you joy. When your little ones see you doing something that makes you happy, they will grow up knowing it’s okay to pursue their passions. (And, they will also look back and remember a much happier Mommy.)
Don’t ever feel bad for taking time for you. We cannot pour into others if we are running on empty.